God · The Me Generation

The Truth is Offensive

“We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.”

Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

The morning started out quite normal. 5:30 am exhaustion, a check of email, scripture reading, and disgruntled children complaining about their siblings. We got in the car to head to school and the eldest was quiet. I should have known then she was a powder keg getting ready to explode…

So we park and walk and hugs are exchanged except for the eldest whose look of death has hit maximum capacity. We start to talk and in mid conversation she tells me that I appeared disinterested while she was telling me a story indicating to me that she thought I didn’t care. That may have been all well and good, but she hit the proverbial drop mic and exit button and started to walk away. This gave way to a conversation where I repeated every word she told me that day.

That’s not the point mommy. You weren’t interested. 

Back up several hours in the midst of prayer about something completely unrelated when Jesus answers my prayer by telling me, the Truth is offensive.  That stuck with me as I jotted it down, meditated on it and whisked the kids into the car. It ruminated inside of me until it slapped  me in the face. I wasn’t offended because her comment was disrespectful, I realized I was offended because she was telling the truth. 

You know, we get called out for all sorts of things. The Truth is deeper and wider than the words they speak. Like Jesus’s conversation with the Pharisee Nicodemus in John 3:12:

“If I tell you about earthly things and you do not believe, how will you believe if I tell you about heavenly things?”

My daughter was not upset because I wasn’t listening. She was upset because it appeared as though she didn’t matter, she was upset because in her eyes my actions didn’t celebrate her story. As many times as I’ve told her I will fail her, she still thinks I’m God. She still thinks she needs to be someone in my eyes. Being my daughter in of itself is not good enough. Are we not the same way with our heavenly Father?

I’ve written some controversial and some not so controversial posts on here. The ones I thought may garner the most discussion have not. The typical Christian positions on an array of social issues has sometimes been mere echoes. Most Christians agree on these things and so preaching to the choir sometimes has its flaws. The others may be disgusted but may not say anything since politics generally don’t have a common ground and those arguments are a dime a dozen. I have found that it is the writings that speak of this selfish, destructive and me generation that garner the most attention.

I can honestly say that the thoughts behind what I write have already been written by the Holy Spirit who speaks through me. I sometimes become afraid or upset because I’d like to write about the loving words in the gospel and run a blog that talks just about that. But the gospel is not all love, or at least as the secular culture understands it. It is about standing up for the truth and suffering for it, even if it means an untimely death.

Martyrdom may not exist so much in the physical sense here in the United States, but martyrdom is not just about death of the physical body, it is about so much more. The word has been used in everyday culture to paint a portrait or mockery as in “oh you’re such a martyr (roll of eyes)” but the word is deeper and painful. The spiritual person understands the martyrdom of the saints, the worldly person sees it as a cry for attention.

If we are living for Jesus, our words will be controversial even when we don’t mean them to be. The person on the receiving end of our declarations may think it is about them, when in fact it was never intended that way. That thought crossed my mind when my daughter said those words to me. Her statement was true, and that is why I felt convicted.

It’s a good time to examine our lives and ask ourselves why we are so offended. May there be some glimmer of truth in the words that hurt us? As much as we are followers of Christ and want to remain unseen, do we still yearn to be noticed by the world? We are sometimes just as guilty as the world.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Thanks to Fat Beggars School of Prophets Blog for the quote and blending of this topic. To be continued…



10 thoughts on “The Truth is Offensive

  1. a lesson here for all of us who more or less take those nearest to us for granted—yes I can repeat what you say….but it’s the deadpan eyes that give me away…and we as parents feel that we have all these things running around in our heads so we nod to those speaking to us as our minds race elsewhere—we think it the ultimate in multitasking but we are not undivided—I can pretty much imagine that when we pray we are pretty much assuming God is hanging on our ever word—imagine our disgruntlement if we get the diverted eye ‘uh huh’ as the God of all Creation multitasks His attentions elsewhere—we would be hurt, crestfallen and mad…much like your daughter…

    As children we assume to be the center of our parent’s universe—as the sun sets and rises in the mere existence as being that child—it is painful when we see life interfering–as I suspect was what was happening with your daughter….
    so it’s a bit of a double edged sword—
    yet when those we love talk with us, we should be in that single moment…
    As God is always in “that moment” when we come to Him in prayer…
    He is so anxious wanting to offer us that …
    Happy Parenting 🙂

    Good stuff here Melissa

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    1. This is so brilliant Julie, you really expanded on that idea that God brought to me. It’s something to think about and meditate on. It is hard here in the states to bring value and time to family when we live in a country that doesn’t value family but rather busyness. As much as I try, it is oftentimes hard to juggle life. Yet when God brings the truth to us, we start to see the possibility of life opening up and light coming in. Love to you my friend!

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  2. So much in my past has made the me in me. Knowing the source of past hurts will better prepare us for dealing with difficult situations of the present. To have the wisdom of Solomon would be wonderful, To have the ear of God divine.

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  3. M-

    I’m learning that I have to be intentional. I have to give my undivided attention to the person you is speaking to me to be able to affirm the and understand their point of view. I can’t be thinking of a retort or question to ask while I’m listening. It’s the hardest thing I have ever done and next to impossible for me to accomplish.


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    1. Yes it is. I still think about. Without truth we cannot grow, and others must hear the truth as well. Today’s reading embodies this Matthew 10:26-33. God bless you my brother.

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      1. I tell you sister, IMO the Truth has not even begun to offend i.e. knock us off of our ends. From a youth I have thought of Jesus being offensive in a way that I cannot even articulate. But I am certain that it is a good way–revealing our error to us in the way your daughter offered you that revelation. Most especially, I think about Him dropping some Matthew 7 on a person’s mind:

        “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’

        The way that hits me is that I can pour my heart out trying to do what I think is God’s will and I might still hear these words. But that’s the risk I have to take and if it turns out that way I gotta be like Job and be humbled. I think too many of us are looking for guarantees from God like we can can control God with our so called goodness and rule following. We’re like “God, I followed the rules, stayed away from bad people, and attacked those who aren’t as righteous as I am, so now you owe me. Do what I command and make everything in my life perfect.”

        I’m saying that from experience to some degree, because when stuff fell apart for me, I realized I was mad at God because I subconsciously thought God owed me for being a “good person”. But after I got crushed, I saw the error of my ignorance and ever since, I’ve been living in the mystery of God.

        God bless you too.

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